Diotrephes or Demetrius?
Are you a selfish divider or a selfless edifier?
This was the juxtaposition John drew in his third letter as he contrasted Diotrephes—the selfish divider—with Demetrius—the selfless edifier.
Known as one who “likes to put himself first” (3 John 1:9-11), Diotrephes refused to acknowledge church authority, and spoke wickedly and nonsensical about Christ’s body. Instead of welcoming others, he refused them, especially the traveling missionaries, and even expelled those in the church who were wanting to be hospitable to them. No wonder John said he would, when he came, “bring up what he is doing,” meaning John was planning on exposing Diotrephes’ wrong motives and behavior.
Demetrius, on the other hand, was one who visibly supported the authority and actions of the church. He had received “a good testimony from everyone” (3 John 1:12), indicating all the church knew Demetrius was selflessly synced up with the church’s work and leaders. John even said “the truth itself” lined up with how Demetrius behaved, meaning his life was humbly in line with God’s Word and united with God’s mission. To top it off, John adds his own approval, letting the readers know Demetrius was the kind of man he could trust. Consequently, so could they.
No doubt John provided a contrast of character for us. He also provided a contrast of reaction: One was corrected; the other commended.
Interestingly, both were in the church. As much as we’d all like to think the church in this current generation, both universally and locally, is an exception, the stark reality is that we’re not. Both kinds of people exist in our churches still today. Which is why I asked you earlier: Are you a selfish divider or a selfless edifier? Are you a Diotrephes or a Demetrius? Are you headed for correction or commendation?
If you find yourself more like the first, ask God to forgive you for your divisive rebellion and start afresh today edifying and unifying the body of Christ. In fact, reach out to a fellow member who needs encouragement today and do exactly that—encourage them now!
If you find yourself more like the second, keep obeying the call to selfless edification in an increasing fashion. Continue ordering your life in such a way that the rest of God’s people know you live in line with God’s Word and God’s mission.
Oh, for an endless number of men and women living like Demetreius, not Diotrephes.
Pastor Todd